Ever heard that before? Most of us have – whether it was an out-and-out “You’re not good enough” or in so many words. Have you ever believed those words? I have. Sometimes actions back up those words… Maybe the person who told you you weren’t good enough throws in some hurtful actions just to push the knife in harder that “you’re not good enough”. I don’t care how strong you are, hearing those words from someone you care about can put your self esteem through the shredder and spit it out in blood covered confetti.
Some people find themselves in cycles – constantly choosing to be around people who tell them they are not good enough. After awhile, it begins more and more difficult to shake it off and before you know it, you may find yourself believing you really aren’t good enough. I saw a quote on Pinterest today that made me so mad. It said: “I’m sincerely sorry I’m not good enough.” WHAT! Stop right there. No. The good Lord knows I have probably uttered these disgusting words myself, but that is the biggest bunch of crock you can let spew out of your mouth.
The truth is, you are good enough. I’m not going to sit here and tell you the person or people who have told you you’re not are bad people, because they’re not. But, they are not people that need to be in your life. Often times when people find dissatisfaction in someone else it stems from discontent within themselves. We all have, at some point or another, been that person. Learn your lesson the first time – when someone drops that ax on your head – RUN. Don’t go back for seconds or thirds or fourths. Stop dining at Golden Corral when you deserve Ruth’s Chris.
Own up to your mistakes. Own up to your faults. Make yourself a better person. Don’t settle for mediocre. Apologize when you have hurt someone or you are wrong, but do NOT apologize for not being good enough. That’s not on you, that’s on the person who told you that. Don’t let someone telling you you’re not pretty enough, smart enough, or whatever else they throw at you, DISTRACT you from your goals. Have tunnel vision when it comes to these people and situations.
As tempting as it is, please don’t think trying to “change” for the sake of being “good enough” for one other person will ever work. I promise you it will not turn out how you want. You will just be hurt, again. It’s the same answer I give to people who ask me what has kept me motivated in my fitness journey. “I was tired of being mediocre. If I was doing it for anyone else, I would have stopped a long time ago. You have to do it for yourself! You have to want it!” You have to want to be better for you. You have to love yourself before you can let anyone else love you. It’s cheesy, but it’s true.
Do. Not. Freaking. Settle. EVER. And, don’t let mean words hurt you! Scoop ’em up and toss ’em out the window and keep walkin’.
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